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I’m glad we’re no longer living in a time where just being a woman or a man determined what you’re capable of doing in or outside the home. Both men and women possess talents that overlap in various areas and to say that only women are allowed to cook and only men are allowed to do repairs around the home would be a complete waste of talent.

Most people who know me, know that cooking is not my favorite activity. Of course, I cook because I have to and I have certain dishes that I can cook better than others, but it’s not my first choice on a list of favorite things to do. I have recently been inspired however, to take a cooking class at some point in the near future (I’ll keep you posted on how that goes.)

My husband, on the other hand, not only loves to cook, but is actually a master at it. He can invent recipes based solely on taste and knows which ingredients go well together whether they’ve traditional been combined or not.

He has the heart of a chef, and if it wasn’t for his God-given talents in the beginning of our marriage, it’s highly probable that we might have starved or become severely malnourished, after all you can only eat so many Raman Noodles.

This is not to say that the sole responsibility of cooking and feeding the family resides on his shoulders, but instead to say that each of us are equally responsible. On the days that I’m tired, he steps in. On the days after he works his night shift, I crack open the fridge and whip something up.  And on those occasions where we’re both completely pooped, it’s okay for us to order in or go out.

Responsibilities should be shared and based on individual talent. One person should not be expected to do everything. Just as the woman shouldn’t be expected to do all the cooking, a man shouldn’t be expected to pay all the bills.

I know there are still households where women are the homemakers and the men are the providers – I’m not speaking out against these homes. I’m simply saying that there are other choices available. Either way the responsibilities should be shared in a way that each can live with. I say shared and not divided because “dividing” would imply that each person is only responsible for giving 50%, when in all actuality, each partner should giving 100%. In other words, each should give the best in whatever they must do.

What do you think? Do you believe women should stay home, simply because they are women and that men should be the sole provider? If so, why? Wouldn’t it be better to allow both men and women to share in whatever tasks they are good at?  Is there something wrong with a man cooking and a woman repairing a leaky pipe? Is a woman the only one responsible for changing a dirty diaper or should the man step in and roll up his sleeves, too?  Who should bring home the bacon and who should cook it?

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