So you’re a Christian and you’re married to an unbeliever? What should you do?
Many people look to the scripture in 2 Corinthians that says, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV) for justification for why you shouldn’t marry or remain married to an unbeliever. However, no where in that scripture does it say spouse or anything about marriage.
Jesus commands us not to allow anyone or anything to come between a man and his wife. Paul said, if you’re married to an unbeliever and they want to stay with you, then you are obligated to remain married. If they choose to leave, then okay, they can go, but you are not to be the one to start divorce proceedings.
Why? Because if your spouse is an unbeliever, and you’re a Christian – you may be the only Christian they come in contact with. You’re the one who’s suppose to set the loving example. Your Christian light should shine so brightly that even your doubting spouse should be moved to wonder how you remain so positive and so loving in spite of everything. Eventually they’ll want to know about what it is that keeps you.
Wait for them to inquire.
- Don’t preach and don’t try to shove Christ down their throat.
- Don’t threaten to leave if they don’t accept Christ.
Even if your spouse has done something worthy of divorce – remember what Christ said about marriage. Yes, your unbelieving spouse needs to change, but you’re not the one who can do it. Only Christ can. If you rely on Christ for strength, through Him, you can do all things – that includes saving your marriage. It only takes one Christian to have a blessed Christian marriage.
- Forgive and let it go
- Start each day fresh – don’t rehash what you forgave yesterday
- End each day with a positive expression of love (hugs, kisses, words of encouragement, affirmations of your love)
- Remember that God loves your unbelieving spouse – who are you not to?
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Kiesha holds a Master of Arts in English and is a graduate of the University of Toledo.
Certainly I learned something new with this article. Now, I will practice some of the lessons I got from here and find out if it is applicable for me and for other Christians out there having problem with there husband or partner!
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With Good anything in possible.the unbelieving spouse may indeed become the believing spouse in time.Give things time.
@Christian – you are absolutely right. It’s an opportunity to fulfill your mission even in the home!